Hello my Strawberry lattes (yes it exists at the Hello Kitty Café in Taipei, check it out when you get the chance to visit it!),
It’s a darn simple question right? What is my talent? The word “talent” used to make me cringe, because I associated that word with arrogance… I felt like when you say “I have a talent for…” that it seemed like you’re bragging. Does anyone also think like that? Do your friends sometimes tell you that you’re good at something? And do you have the tendency to minimize that? I know I did…
Back in 2017, from March to August, I was at a low point. But I’m not the type of person to wallow in self pity for too long (I do allow myself to do a little bit :p), so I decided to go to a Career Coach. Best thing I ever did! My coach Els, made me realize that sharing your talent has nothing to do with arrogance. It’s just something you’re born with. It’s not bragging saying that a certain thing is your talent. It is something that comes naturally to you, that doesn’t require emotional energy. As a matter of fact, it can give you energy.
Els made me talk about my youth, about the people I looked up to and about the toys I used to play with, which I had to write down in my notebook.
She also made me describe the happiest, the saddest and most challenging moments of my life. She even made me draw my work situation…
She didn’t say much, but let me talk, which felt really nice. Because she really heard what I was saying. She didn’t brush anything off, didn’t minimize it or laugh it away. She wasn’t judgy but completely open. And when there was doubt in my voice, she’d ask me why I had those doubts. She also addressed things that were holding me back, like a conviction that something had to be a certain way. It’s like she uncoiled many knots inside my chest, by saying that “it’s okay, if it’s not like this or that”. I really needed to hear that. She also payed close attention to how I described things (how I lit up, how I smiled, how my shoulders hunched over,…). And based on that, she identified my talents.
I thought that maybe, I had one or two talents (I’m good at learning languages and I’m quite good at analyzing situations and systems). But then she pulled out a stack of cards, the talent cards, she called it. She took out 10 cards and told me that these were my talents. I was blown away, like what? 10 talents?! Are you kidding me? Here’s what she pulled out:
- Creative Maker: someone who likes to create things
- Great Planner: I didn’t think this was a talent, but she said that I completely lit up when I talked about planning my vacation. In my eyes, everyone probably loves planning their vacation, but apparently it’s not true…
- Idea Fountain: When you give me a topic that interests me, I have a burst of ideas in my head. Isn’t everyone like this?
- Busy Bee: Didn’t think this was a talent… But I don’t like doing something that gives me the feeling I’m losing time. If I watch TV, then it’s deliberate because it’s spending quality time with my partner. But other than that, I can’t spend time watching TV for hours anymore, because it feels like time passes so quickly and that I’m wasting time…
- Beautifiyer: I love to make things beautiful (presentations, parties, indoor decoration, food plate, people through make up and hair,…). Isn’t everyone like that?
- Visual organizer: I pretty much can see what I want in front of me, I see the potential in something. When I enter an empty room, I see the potential in it. To me, every woman is like this?
- Intuitive thinker: I make intuitive decisions based on how good it feels to me and I make less rational decisions.
- Pushover: I like order and structure which brings me rest and the feeling that I am master of the situation
- Knowledge sponge: I constantly want to learn new things.
- Word artist: I’m good at putting things in words and making it sound more acceptable or understandable. This is the reason why blogging gives me energy!
Most of the things in this list are part of my personality and I would’ve NEVER called it a talent. Most of these so called talents, I thought everyone has… To me, I didn’t feel like it made me anyone special. Nonetheless, when I read the cards, it clicked in place. My thoughts had finally made a connection with my soul. Because before that happened, everything my soul desired, I had been ignoring for years, minimizing it and telling myself that that’s not how I was supposed to live my life. Els convinced me that these talents are special traits very unique to me. And that if I stay true to myself, I would be very happy in my personal and professional life.
Now obviously, I’m not here to brag about my so called talents :p.
So, let me ask you, what are your talents?
If you can’t find a clear answer to this question, you may want to consider talking to a Career coach, who is someone neutral and that you’re more likely to believe than your own friends or family. If you look up career coaches, there are many systems they work with. While I was checking out these coaches, I had the choice between the “scientific” method or the “human” method. I chose the latter. I’ve done the scientific way before, which requires you to sit in front of a PC and filling in questions and do tests. The reason I don’t advise you to do this is because you will answer differently depending on how you feel at that moment. And the computer might misinterpret your personality, it doesn’t look at your passions, the way you talk about things.
What are the advantages of knowing what your talent is?
Going to this Career Coach changed my life tremendously.
- I’m so much more confident. I don’t feel like sh*t when something doesn’t work for me, because I know that’s not how I’m wired so I don’t take it personally.
- I get along better with colleagues: It allows me to be more understanding of others, because perhaps they don’t have the same talents I have, so I shouldn’t expect it to go as smoothly for them as it does for me.
- It helps me make decisions without regret: when looking for a job, it’s now more easy for me to see what will work for me or not.
If you’re feeling insecure, let me tell you, THIS IS NOT PART OF YOUR PERSONALITY. Please don’t tell me: “I’m always second guessing things. This is how I am, I am never sure about myself…”. You CAN feel confident, you just need to take a step forward, realizing that you can do something about it. You can become a stronger person and it starts with knowing exactly who you are and what your talents are.
I hope I’ve inspired you! If you already know what your talents are! That’s awesome, please share them below! If you’re still hesitating, please comment below and let’s talk about it!
Hope you enjoyed this post! Have a wonderful and productive week!